7.30.2014

Being More Than Ordinary

When you're kid, you form an idea or picture of what you believe it will be like to be an "adult" or how you think your life will play out.

If your picture is still standing strong, kudos.  If it's a little, or a lot, different than you had once imagined, welcome to the club.  I used to think curve balls and detours made life harder and by default, hated them. Now? I believe they make life interesting and offer possibilities that may have otherwise gone unnoticed, and have begrudgingly developed respect for them.

I've discovered I am a person that needs structure, but can't embrace it.  In the same breath, the idea of multiple possibilities is slightly terrifying.  I'm a walking conundrum.  I am, by most measures, an ordinary person, and for the most part, this doesn't bother me.  But, at some point, I have to choose to not settle for ordinary. 

Now, let me be clear; I have no misplaced dreams, or skills, to become the next technological trailblazer or a 104 time Grammy winner, but lately, I have had a growing desire to make a difference.  I can't change the world and truly don't think it's a burden I could shoulder; what I want is to make a impact that's more than fleeting.  And with that desire comes a feeling of restlessness and being unsettled.  I have no idea what this next season of my/our life is going to bring, but I do know both of us need to be ready to be pulled farther out of our comfort zone than we have ever ventured.

For as long as I can remember, I have believed that 30 is the age in which you're supposed to be an adult. You know, have your life all together and figured out the next 50 years. Seriously. However, now that I'm fast approaching the final year of my 20's (2 months, people!), I can say with confidence I no longer believe that.  I have no idea what I want to do or be when I "grow up."  In some ways, that's a scary realization, but it's also somewhat liberating because I'm learning just how little I am in control.  I know that what happens in my life and when it happens is totally in God's hands (Ecclesiastes 3:1), which, if I'm being honest, is equally scary and liberating.

The past few days have been a time of learning, and for lack of better word, examination of myself and life, and as with any learning experience, small amounts of bitterness and anger worked there way in.  And though there are many things I am not good at, being unhappy is at the top of the list.  It's exhausting and I just don't like it, so I am choosing to put my energy towards something more than feeling angry because I am one of those annoying people who truly believe something beautiful can come out of every situation.  Happiness, is not found nor is it given; it's a choice and it's one each of us gets to make every day.

My could-be-best-friend-if we-ever-met, Taylor Swift, says it perfectly "You don't find happiness from living your life looking ahead or back...you find it when you look around."

Life is notoriously known for it's constant fluctuations.  No two moments are the same and if you don't fight to see those moments as they truly are, you stand to risk missing the blessings.  I've stood still long enough. I've been anything but fearless for too long.  There is not a shadow of a doubt in my mind that where God is taking me and Andrew won't be difficult and trying.  And despite the age old saying, I know there will be moments that will be way more than we can handle.

But, because of His grace, we will be given enough to make it through.  All we have to do is trust.

::For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, 
which God prepared in advance for us to do::
Ephesians 2:10 (NIV)
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6.24.2014

A List of My Summer Do's and Don'ts

Today I saw a graphic that informed me Christmas eve is six months away.

My reaction? A shake of the head and a feeling of slight disbelief.

Don't get me wrong; I LOVE Christmas, to the point of often referring to myself as "crazy Christmas girl," but it's June. It's 90 degrees and 542% humidity, and though I am not a supporter of such statistics (or of summer if I'm being honest), I am constantly trying to be completely in the season. Literally and metaphorically.

I've been working on creating a summer to-do list and I think I've finally nailed it down...

+ go to an outside concert or two

+ go to a drive-in movie

+ spend the day on the lake...again

+ go to the beach (happening in less than a month!)

+ play guitar...again

+ go to a baseball game

+ paint the wooden bench that's been sitting in our garage for a year

+  read five books

+ write three {handwritten} letters just because
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I could probably keep this list going, but I believe this is sufficient for the time being. Thankfully North Carolina is an awesome place to live and pretty much every single thing I want to go to or do can be found or done within a hours drive at most. Though I may not prefer summer, I plan on enjoying the fun things that come along with it and thankfully, that's quite a bit.

And on my to-don't list is just this one thing...

+ get sun poisoning again

Yeah. It's bad. 

Happy summer living!

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5.29.2014

Disney Recap {3 Weeks Later}!

It's been three weeks since our first ever trip to Disney, so now seems like a great time to post a recap.

I never really understood what the big deal was with Disney. Sure, it looked like fun based on pictures I saw and I loved the movies (who doesn't go through life wishing they could burst into song at any given moment), but I didn't feel like I was missing out on anything special.

Three weeks ago I learned I was very, very wrong.

Before I continue, allow me to reference this clip of Kristen Bell on Ellen. In said clip, at approximately 54 seconds in, she states, "If I'm not between a 3 and 7 on the emotional scale, I'm crying," and much of the time, that's me. As great as I am at talking, I am the worst when it comes to verbalizing my emotions. Crying? I'm an expert. Crying when I'm really excited? I'm whatever is above being an expert.

When we walked through the gates of Magic Kingdom, and I had my first glimpse of Cinderella's Castle, I had to take a moment (or several) to compose myself.


When looking at the size of this place and the million and four things one wants to do on their inaugural visit to Magic Kingdom, it can be a bit overwhelming. A tip: just start. It's not going to get smaller and there will not be less you want to do and see, but the great thing about Disney World is it's not going anywhere (in theory). If you miss something, don't worry. Just make a note for your next trip, which we may or may not already be talking about.

Andrew was so wonderful and sweet and never seemed bothered by the fact he was walking around with a 28 year old who resembled a child most of the day. I am not one for standing in lines, but it seemed a small price to pay to "meet" characters and ride rides. And despite spending the entire day Thursday in Magic Kingdom, I left feeling as though I didn't get as much time as I wanted or needed. It was probably one of the most fun days I have had in my life. It is a positively magical place and now, after going, I absolutely understand what the aforementioned big deal is.


Friday was a low key day that ended in Downtown Disney for some live music.


This guy was really good, and even honored my request when I asked for Taylor Swift.

Don't judge me.

Our initial plans for while in Orlando was only to go to one park, but then, after the enchanting time we had in Magic Kingdom, it was obvious another day was necessary.

Hollywood Studios, while not as magical, was awesome. Our first stop, and eventual last stop, was Toy Story Midway Mania, which is a must for any of you planning a trip to Disney. As with most anything in Disney, you'll spend more time waiting to do the ride than the doing the ride itself, but it's worth it.

One of my favorite parts of this park was doing the Animation Academy, though I will be the first to say, drawing and visual art is not my forte in the least. It's just a neat experience and I'd venture to say we'll do it again.

The one thing that I made a priority was seeing the Beauty and the Beast show. This has always been my favorite Disney movie, and seeing come to life was pretty fantastic. It's only half an hour, so even if you're not a huge Beauty and the Beast fan, I still highly recommend it.


After going to Disney World, this is my opinion; if you never go, you're fine. However, once you go, you're obsessed. It is called the happiest place on Earth for a reason. We loved every minute and I can't wait to go back.

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5.23.2014

Friday Randoms

It's Friday and it's been awhile since I've said anything random in this medium, and today seems to be a good day to change that!

This week...

...I have been working on a Disney recap and it should be done sometime this year.

...work has made me an emotional mess. My dislike for change has been reinforced in the past 7 days.

...The Bachelorette started back and I plan on fully enjoying all the overproduced drama it's going to bring. 

...I've been listening to the Disney Pandora station a lot.


...I'm going to start painting a bench we possibly bought over a year ago. 

...I've enjoyed free coffee from Dunkin Donuts every time the Braves won.




...I saw sweet family members. 


...we roasted marshmallows. 



Overall, it's been a pretty good week, but there are a few aspects I won't recap because there is really no point. When not great things happen, and we're walking through a hard season, I remind myself it is temporary, and I am not called to focus on the temporary (2 Corinthians 4:18). God brings us to and through certain things not to tear us apart, but to set us apart. To make us ready for what he has set in place for us. This week has reminded me of that above all else, and for that, I am thankful.

Happy Friday!


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5.20.2014

What's In A Name?

[This piece was originally written for an online publication]

There aren't many teams to get a standing ovation after suffering a 40 point loss in their inaugural game and probably fewer who have a post season parade after finishing 20-62, but the 1988-89 Charlotte Hornets received both.

When the NBA awarded Charlotte with its first major league sports team, there was no way for anyone to know what the impact it would have both on and off the court. The Hornets led the league in attendance eight times during their first tenure in the Queen City and hosted 364 consecutive sold out games in the Charlotte Coliseum.  To add to this already significant feat, the Charlotte Coliseum was the largest arena in the league, with more than 24,000 seats.

North Carolina is known as a college basketball state, not professional, and many doubted the longevity of Charlotte's love for their NBA team. But the Hornets found a home in Charlotte and the love for the Hornets ran deep. Losses mattered little and wins were an added benefit of having a team to call their own.

The enthusiasm was unwavering for close to a decade, but as the saying goes, all good things must come to an end. After several tumultuous seasons, then owner, George Shinn, received the go-ahead from the NBA to relocate the Hornets to New Orleans in 2002, leaving Charlotte with only a promise of receiving a new team in time for the 2004-05 season.

That team? The Bobcats; an uninspired name for a team that would never quite grasp the hearts the way its predecessor did in a city that had become embittered towards the NBA. They would finish their first season with only 18 wins and averaged 14,000 in attendance. The Queen City, once famous for its passion and volume for the home team, was now, at best, a lackadaisical crowd.

The Bobcats played only their first season at the Coliseum, in front thousands of empty seats, before moving into the Time Warner Cable Arena in 2005. The next nine years did little to give Charlotte a reason to call the Bobcats their own. Between six head coaching changes, setting a new record for the worst season by an NBA team in history (7-59) in 2012, and getting swept in both playoff appearances, there was little room for interest, much less passion, to grow.

Breakups are messy, but reconciliations can be beautiful

In 2012, New Orleans reported they would be changing their name to the Pelicans at the conclusion of the 2012-13 season, opening the door for Bobcats owner, Michael Jordan, to submit an application to change the name of his franchise back to the Charlotte Hornets. And on July 18, 2013, the NBA said the words Charlotte had been longing to hear for almost a decade: the Hornets are coming home (paraphrased).

It's been 12 years since the Charlotte Hornets played a game and 10 years of something resembling disdain for the home NBA team here in Charlotte. The question, though, is when the Hornets take the floor next fall, will the name change be enough? Will the familiar sight of teal and purple being back in Charlotte erase the last 10 years of halfhearted fanship?

"I'm in favor of changing the name to Hornets," Muggsy Bogues, an original Charlotte Hornet said. "That name belongs to the city of Charlotte. It will help. But I'm also quite sure the Bobcats know that a name change alone isn't going to do it. It's never going to be exactly the same, but you have to make people feel that relationship again. You have to reach out in the community. But, most of all, you have to win."

The Bobcats never had the support of a community. They entered into a tainted relationship and would never overcome the mountain that had been placed in front of them. And with the city more than happy to close the door on a team that had more mediocre seasons than not, the fans are ready to be apart of what made the Charlotte Hornets more than just a basketball team.

For most, the end of an era elicits feelings of nostalgia, but when the Bobcats played their last game on April 28, the only feelings in Charlotte were of relief. Gone was the team with the worst season in NBA history and in its place, a team whose history in this city brings a fresh start.

Michael Jordan, who scored 51 points against the Charlotte Hornets in 2001, has often said he wants the Time Warner Cable Arena to feel like the Charlotte Coliseum did during the Hornets prime.

"The energy in that building [the Charlotte Coliseum] is what we're trying to get back in this building," Team President Fred Whitfield said. "When you would leave, the fans felt like they had won or lost. They felt they had played the game."

Palpable energy isn't given as freely as it once was, but Charlotte has to be ready to answer the call when given the opportunity. The expectations of bringing back what the Hornets meant cannot solely rest on the shoulders of the five guys on the hardwood. To truly bring the buzz back, those lucky enough to fill the seats have to remember, or discover, what it means to be passionate about an NBA team.

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3.18.2014

Playing Catch Up and Making Choices

What's this?! A post!? Never mind it's been almost two months awhile since the last one; live in the moment, people!

I've missed my little blog, but haven't had anything clever enough to break through the apparent box of silence I've been in. I'm learning more and more to stop pressuring myself to feel as if I need to do "everything." "Everything" is different for each of us, but I believe it's imperative to one's happiness and brain capacity we take a moment to recognize that it's okay for some things not to happen.

For me, both recently and the past several months, it's been this blog. For a while I contemplated whether or not I wanted to just delete this part of my life and move on, but that seemed far too drastic and severe. So here I am, a few weeks little bit since my last post, hoping y'all are still around!

Due to the box of silence, a recap 2014 so far seems not only fitting, but necessary!


we had dinner with some wonderful friends//enjoyed winter weather//really enjoyed beautiful spring weather//started doing Body Pump twice a week//started an amazing, thought-provoking book//
spent some time with my fantastic nephew//had a few dates with this guy//
bought a tutu for the Color Run//went to the ACC tournament//

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I made two decisions at the beginning of this year; to stop breaking promises to myself and to face this year head on. So far, I feel comfortable in saying these two things have happened. Although I've learned life goes by faster than the blink of an eye, that doesn't give me an excuse to sit back, see it pass, and talk about how fast it's going. This year, as any year, has the potential to be awesome, but I have to choose to see it that way no matter what.  God will allow me and push me to and through trials this year, but through all that, I have to know and believe He sees me (Genesis 16:13).  I will actively choose joy and thankfulness. My life, and this world, is not something I can be passive about.

Something else I decided a while ago is to have a really high priority on happiness and finding something to be happy about. Each day, life can hand you lemons, throw curve balls, and a myriad of other cliches, but in the midst of all that, it is ultimately my choice to be happy. Bad moods, days, weeks are going to happen; some worse than others, but when it's all said and done, there is far more to rejoice over than not.

There are far too many things and circumstances we can't choose or control, but for the things we can, we should choose well and wisely.

Choose joy. Choose thankfulness. Choose happiness.

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1.29.2014

Seven Things on a Snow Day

...one...Snow days! Got one today and loving every minute of it! I am a big kid when it comes to winter weather.

...two...I plan on spending a part of this snow day figuring out what I want to make eat for Super Bowl Sunday
these will probably happen again
 ...three...I can't believe the Super Bowl is this weekend...I don't really care for January, but I can't believe it's almost over

...four...This commercial. Y'all. I can't.


...five...I can't explain why, because I'm not a drinker, but I loved this shirt and bought it for some reason. It makes me laugh and happy to be a southern girl I guess.



...six...We met Muggsy Bogues!



...seven...I have rewatched the first two seasons of Rookie Blue and and irrationally upset I don't have the third season on DVD.


I could probably list out 15 more random things, but I'll stop it at seven. Happy Wednesday, y'all!



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