Something Worth Fighting For

8.05.2011

Love. The 4-letter word that at some point in our lives was scary and maybe at times, still is. In school {elementary, middle, high}, we may have "loved" multiple people at any given time. At least I know I did, but I was a little boy crazy back in those days.

Now there is just one boy I'm crazy about...

Yeah, that's the one.

But 'love' changes as we do. When I was 16, I honestly thought I loved my high school boyfriend. Clearly, knowing what I know now and recognizing what love really is and means, it cannot even compare. At that point in my life though, I was sure that what we had was love and no one could tell me any differently.

I'm sure this proves to be true for most of us. Certainly not all of us because I personally know an amazing married couple that have been together since those teenage years. As little kids, we knew the love of our parents and other family members and as the years have gone by, we've learned different loves and ways to love. How many times have you heard the words uttered "I love you, I'm just not in love with you" in t.v. shows, movies or maybe even in real life? Love doesn't have to be a romantic knowledge or feeling. Defined as a noun, love means "strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties" and as a verb "to hold dear; cherish".

What I knew of love at 7 was different then what I came to know at 16. And what I know now of love at 25, the 16 year old me would not even know how to handle it. And I thank God for that. Most of us were not born being unselfish. It's something that has to be learned, taught and experienced. When I was 16, I was selfish, positive I knew more than my parents, I was always right and whatever was happening at a given moment was sure to ruin my life for years to come.

In a word, I was 16. I didn't know half as much as I thought I did, and I have learned that I will never know as much as I should. I will never love Andrew the way he deserves, but I'm going to live every day of my life trying. I will never give God everything that I should, but I will never stop trying and praying that I will one day be able to. I've said before that I never had no idea how selfish I was until I became a wife and I cannot begin to fathom how I'll handle my selfishness when what defines me is a 3-letter word with more power than anything else:

Mom.

But it is for that reason alone that I believe God gave us seasons. I would have been a terrible wife at 16. Heck, I have days now where I'm not sure I could be any worse. God teaches and molds and guides us through life and through love. Sometimes those lessons feel as though they could kill us, but what other way could we learn of His mercy and grace? What other ways could we recognize that the people He's placed in our lives are there to help us with those things? My husband, parents, family, friends and dogs {yes, my dogs}, have showed me what it means to love. And something that I've had to learn over the years, is that we all show love differently. If you've never looked to see what your "love language" is, you should. It is how we can serve God and one another while on this earth.

1 John 4:19 says that we love because He first loved us. Love is not just a word; it is not just a feeling. It is true, living, awesome and real. We've all heard 1 Corinthians 13, and it is a wonderful chapter. But the words that should be remembered if nothing else is verse 8;

Love never fails
...love is not a fight, but is something worth fighting for...



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Laura Darling said...

Love this post.

Megan and Justin said...

beautiful post. just found your blog, following now!

Nina said...

I just love you!! I need to read this post every day.

Beth Hoffman said...

This post made my day! Simply beautiful, Maggie!

 
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