Letter to Me


We've all heard the phrase "if I knew then what I know now...". But we all know that what we go through makes us who we are and so sometimes it's good that we didn't know then what we know now.  Though I somewhat despise the quote "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" for my own reasons,  I do understand the gist of it what it means. But I've been thinking about what I would say if I could write a letter and send it to myself 10 years ago, and though there are many more then what's listed below, these are probably the most significant... 

...Don't give up. The things that are worth it, don't come easily. And if someone tells you that you can't do something, just let that fuel the fire that is driving you to where you want to go.

...Enjoy the days you have at Mount Tabor High School. The whole time I was in high school, all I could think was how much I wanted to be out of it. Now that I'm an adult with bills and a full time job, I wonder what the heck was wrong with me.

...Just because they're considered "popular", doesn't mean you should try to fit into their mold of what's cool or acceptable.  I wasted too much time trying to be classified as one of the popular girls friends. Why? I have no clue. At the time it seemed really important and very necessary, but here I am, 9 years later, and thankful that I wasn't part of that crowd. I am who I am and that is awkward, loud more often than not, and not stylish by anyone standards. And that's okay. It may not have been then, but if you learn to love yourself at 16, you're doing pretty good.

...Be the friend, daughter and granddaughter that you would want. Praise God this is something that didn't have to be accomplished by graduation and I have time to improve this. But in high school, there is an abundant amount of time to devote to these things. Work hard to be there for your friends and harder to visit your grandparents and family members. Life goes by faster than you ever think it will and moments spent with them is precious.

...Loving God may not be "cool", but it is so awesome. No explanation needed.

...Save your money! I just shake my head when I think about all the money that I made during my high school years that got blown on who knows what. Financial intelligence is still something I'm trying to learn.

...Just because some jerk broke your heart into a million pieces, doesn't mean there isn't an awesome one being prepared for you. I'm pretty sure this applies to all of us. There will always be that one guy that shattered our hearts, but we were positive that was the one we'd spend the rest of our lives with. You know, because meeting your husband when you're 16 happens quite frequently. But again, the heartbreaks and the jerks provide the path that God has paved to the one He has prepared.

...Find what you love and what you're good at and figure out how to make a living doing it. Oh if only I had known this earlier in life. Life is not about working, but you working takes up a lot of hours so you may as well find something you love and that you're good at to pass the hours.

It probably goes without saying that despite me wanting to say this to my 16 year old self, my 25 year old self needs to hear it just as much. I guess that's why they say you never stop growing up. Or at least something like that. Regardless, I would have liked to know all of these things about 10 years ago, but you learn as you go!



5 i love your comments!:

Laura Darling said...

Oh I TOTALLY agree with the "save your money" one!

Jennifer said...

AGREED on all these points and especially the last one about trying to figure out what you love & make a living doing it...I find a lot of us are still trying to figure out 'what we want to be when we grow up,' or we kind of know, but just don't know how to make ourselves take the scary steps to get there.

Super cute post girly!

Megan said...

This is SO perfectly said!! I would definitely tell myself many of these, especially the one about enjoying high school and about guys!

Laura Rowe [twirl] said...

I love this idea!! Do you live in Charlotte? I was gathering that from your blog date... my husband and I lived there for a year and loved it! We were around the corner from Selwyn Pub :)

Unknown said...

New to your blog.. I agree with you completely on your pondering :) Especially with the loving God and about the jerk breaking your heart. I'm excited to see him work in that area. Great blog! Nice to meet you in blogland!

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